As previously noted, nothing. But perhaps some of your behaviour is unhelpful, and it is right to try to address this.
are people not interested in me because they assume i am happily single?
You make it fairly clear that you do not wish to be single, so I do not think that this is the case.
are people not interested in me because they assume there must be something wrong with me?
Not to my knowledge.
are in fact people interested in me and i am not noticing it? (note: if so please tell me)
Again, not to my knowledge.
These are difficult questions because I'm not sure what it is that makes me feel attracted to some people and not others. I know that intelligence and kindness have a huge amount to do with it, for me, but I don't know why I feel attracted to pfy and hairyears and not, say, timeplease or ali_anarres. I don't know why I have an intellectual crush on one person that does have a side-helping of strong physical attraction, but an intellectual crush on another person with absolutely no physical elements at all. Not knowing this about myself I can't extrapolate for other people and so I cannot generalise.
I also don't really do the flirting thing very well, I don't think.
The only thing that I can think of that might be specifically off-putting is that you can come across as a bit desperate, but I have no idea how much of that is stuff that I pick up as a person you talk to about these things sometimes. And it's a typical catch-22 situation as you won't stop coming across as desperate until you feel less desperate, and you won't feel less desperate until your outlook on your situation changes (which may be brought about by the actual situation changing).
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Date: 2008-03-18 05:04 pm (UTC)As previously noted, nothing. But perhaps some of your behaviour is unhelpful, and it is right to try to address this.
are people not interested in me because they assume i am happily single?
You make it fairly clear that you do not wish to be single, so I do not think that this is the case.
are people not interested in me because they assume there must be something wrong with me?
Not to my knowledge.
are in fact people interested in me and i am not noticing it? (note: if so please tell me)
Again, not to my knowledge.
These are difficult questions because I'm not sure what it is that makes me feel attracted to some people and not others. I know that intelligence and kindness have a huge amount to do with it, for me, but I don't know why I feel attracted to
I also don't really do the flirting thing very well, I don't think.
The only thing that I can think of that might be specifically off-putting is that you can come across as a bit desperate, but I have no idea how much of that is stuff that I pick up as a person you talk to about these things sometimes. And it's a typical catch-22 situation as you won't stop coming across as desperate until you feel less desperate, and you won't feel less desperate until your outlook on your situation changes (which may be brought about by the actual situation changing).