Yes, hard to tell re timing... but it is at least possible that this is the problem? I would say also that I'm not sure infatuation is the best state to begin a relationship in, so that's another reason for waiting for it to wear off before you approach someone.
Before anyone misinterprets, and jumps on me for being anti-romance: I see infatuation as being different from NRE — New Relationship Energy — the former is more of an internal thing, if you see what I mean, while the latter comes from interaction. This is part of why I don't think infatuation and relationships go together very well; infatuation doesn't tend to be about what the person is really like, but rather about an idealised version of them. (Of course, we may be using the same word to mean different things, in which case I'm being useless.)
(Yes, we should fix it. Would you like to be on my London stuff filters? Not that I've been using them much recently — I will try to do something about that.)
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Date: 2008-03-18 04:36 pm (UTC)Before anyone misinterprets, and jumps on me for being anti-romance: I see infatuation as being different from NRE — New Relationship Energy — the former is more of an internal thing, if you see what I mean, while the latter comes from interaction. This is part of why I don't think infatuation and relationships go together very well; infatuation doesn't tend to be about what the person is really like, but rather about an idealised version of them. (Of course, we may be using the same word to mean different things, in which case I'm being useless.)
(Yes, we should fix it. Would you like to be on my London stuff filters? Not that I've been using them much recently — I will try to do something about that.)