I'm not sure it's confidence per say. I think I talked a good game before, when you first knew me, but in retrospect, I don't think I was a particularly attractive person because I was mostly noise. I think people can tell through fakes, if people are uncomfortable with their own selves.
Once I've gotten more comfortable with myself, which seems to involve not precisely faking it, but being what others find to be more realistic (example: not going "oh woe, I suck at life', but instead 'well, I've anger issues I need to work on, how can I do that?') and a bit upbeat. Interestingly, when I reached the point where I gave up on particularly finding someone(s), and instead focused on bettering myself and really being okay with myself as is too (I know they seem counter-intuitive, not quite though) I found several rather lovely someones.
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Date: 2008-03-17 10:14 pm (UTC)Once I've gotten more comfortable with myself, which seems to involve not precisely faking it, but being what others find to be more realistic (example: not going "oh woe, I suck at life', but instead 'well, I've anger issues I need to work on, how can I do that?') and a bit upbeat. Interestingly, when I reached the point where I gave up on particularly finding someone(s), and instead focused on bettering myself and really being okay with myself as is too (I know they seem counter-intuitive, not quite though) I found several rather lovely someones.