Okay, so I've only met you once, but I've talked to you quite a bit over the years. Feel free to disregard my ramblings.
I can't think of anything wrong with you (apart from an unhealthy interest in mapping, natch), but in my experience, that doesn't mean anything in terms of coupling up; some of the genuinely nicest people I know are just *not* finding anyone and it baffles me, frankly.
One of the things I sometimes wonder is whether some of them are, for whatever reason - fear, shyness, "stuff" - socialise in a totally non sexual way. Erm, I've struggled to find the right way to put that and haven't succeeded...I mean that often there are subtle ways of socialising that, whilst not indicating interest, indicate not disinterest, or the possibility that if someone good came a long there could be interest. Of course, I don't mean turning up with a plate of sandwiches, giggling and askign the room at large if they want some of your lovely baps (although that would be marvellous!); maybe I just mean having a very subtle undercurrent of flirtyness sometimes. Oh, I'm going to stop. I can't describe it, but I can often tell when it's missing iyswim. It's not nec person-targted, so if you know someone categorically doesn't fancy you, you can still observe the attitude.
Oh, who'd have thought I communicate for a living? I give up!
But, ooh, I'd have thought that if you're crap at rejection getting used it in bulk via a dating thingy would be good; water off a duck's back after a while....and then, bingo, the no-rejection comes. I think these sites give you athick skin fast!
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Date: 2008-03-17 08:15 pm (UTC)I can't think of anything wrong with you (apart from an unhealthy interest in mapping, natch), but in my experience, that doesn't mean anything in terms of coupling up; some of the genuinely nicest people I know are just *not* finding anyone and it baffles me, frankly.
One of the things I sometimes wonder is whether some of them are, for whatever reason - fear, shyness, "stuff" - socialise in a totally non sexual way. Erm, I've struggled to find the right way to put that and haven't succeeded...I mean that often there are subtle ways of socialising that, whilst not indicating interest, indicate not disinterest, or the possibility that if someone good came a long there could be interest.
Of course, I don't mean turning up with a plate of sandwiches, giggling and askign the room at large if they want some of your lovely baps (although that would be marvellous!); maybe I just mean having a very subtle undercurrent of flirtyness sometimes. Oh, I'm going to stop. I can't describe it, but I can often tell when it's missing iyswim. It's not nec person-targted, so if you know someone categorically doesn't fancy you, you can still observe the attitude.
Oh, who'd have thought I communicate for a living? I give up!
But, ooh, I'd have thought that if you're crap at rejection getting used it in bulk via a dating thingy would be good; water off a duck's back after a while....and then, bingo, the no-rejection comes. I think these sites give you athick skin fast!