It also took me a while to work out how you were gendered, before that last time we got to talking in the Pembury. In fact, I didn't know that you had transitioned until you mentioned it on my journal. It's not important to me at all to know someone's gender, though, and I'm comfortable with having the signals a little bit scrambled.

I also agree with owlfish's comment; if anyone is put off by you being trans or androgynous, well, they're probably not worth bothering with. I don't think it's an insurmountable obstacle. To me, you sort of present as 'geeksexual' ie enthusiastic and a little awkward. I suspect, having had a tipsy flirtatious conversation with you (which was lots of fun!) that you could do with more practice at flirting and expressing interest, and overcoming shyness. I also agree with what Ewt says about lack of non-sexual human touch - I think people suffer from that more than they (we) let on. Getting used to physical closeness with people would remove a lot of the awkwardness around touching and being touched.

You can flirt with me any time to hone your skills ;)