This is all very easy for you to say. But how am I supposed to fix this? It's not like I am consciously doing any of it. this bit of angst - which I may have mentioned the details of to you before - was ultimately only resolved by me just not hanging around with that person any more. Every time I think I notice signs and act on it, it doesn't work out [bad original wording. ed.]. I don't want to be doing that for the rest of my life.