yes is the answer to "Do you mean that you approach them and they turn you down".

what happens may be summarised as:

abi is hiding in her shell.
person comes along, thinks "ah, why is the abi hiding in a shell? that is so sad. i will try to get her out of her shell."
abi thinks "ah, person likes me. yay"
person says "no, no, not like that!"
abi thinks "tsk. well, why did you think i was hiding in the shell, eh?"