I find consciously flirting really hard, and I'm not sure that it's not been counterproductive when I have tried it. *nods* I think setting out with an aim of "I'm going to flirt with this person" doesn't work per se. Things that do work:-
Ask people lots of questions about themselves. Obviously this comes across better if you're genuinely interested in what they have to say, but it's quite a good way of getting into deep and meaningfuls without having to actually do much of the talking, which is handy if you're shy.
Smile whenever you catch someone's eye - do this with everyone, as it makes you seem open and friendlier, and in general will actually put you in a better mood as well.
Think about sex a lot. You ask downthread about how people transmit sexual vibes; I can't be certain about this, but I think that for me it's just that I'm pretty much perpetually horny, hence pheremones do half the work for me before I even start chatting someone up!
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*nods* I think setting out with an aim of "I'm going to flirt with this person" doesn't work per se. Things that do work:-
Ask people lots of questions about themselves. Obviously this comes across better if you're genuinely interested in what they have to say, but it's quite a good way of getting into deep and meaningfuls without having to actually do much of the talking, which is handy if you're shy.
Smile whenever you catch someone's eye - do this with everyone, as it makes you seem open and friendlier, and in general will actually put you in a better mood as well.
Think about sex a lot. You ask downthread about how people transmit sexual vibes; I can't be certain about this, but I think that for me it's just that I'm pretty much perpetually horny, hence pheremones do half the work for me before I even start chatting someone up!
Good luck!