big hugs to you (in a condescending way), if i was with you i would bake some (egg free cake), and cook a nice dinner and share some good wine to talk it through. As a, mostly, perpetually single girl of around the same age as you i know how lonely things can get. I doubt that there is anything wrong with you, and from my own experience if you start thinking that way it is rather self destructive. It is probably that there is something wrong with the people you are meeting, or perhaps a better way to put it would be that there is something not quite right with them in terms of their compatibility with you. I don't think going into hiding is the right thing to do, in fact it would make you miserable, but do the things that you enjoy doing maybe you will find someone who likes the same things as you doing that. It never hurts to go out and try new things, but don't lose track of the friends you have that care for you either. Only you can decided if you want to deal with rejection or not, the unfulfilled attraction is difficult, and it can be even more difficult to deal with rejection when you have built an attachment to another person that you think is mutual, but I would rather have that bubbly feeling with the rejection than hide from the world.
I could very easily ask the same question of what is wrong with me being very nearly 31 and hopelessly single, but the answers i would give myself wouldn't help me much and i think right now really wouldn't help me much. I think with relationships it is more a case of being lucky enough to meet someone compatible at the right time of your life and their life. One thing i'm certain of is that i would rather be single than in a bad relationship. I know what i have said isn't really helpful, but it is normal for humans to feel alone and isolated even when they have family and friends who would do their best to prevent that. You sound pretty low at the moment, but you are doing a very positive thing talking about it, just pleas don't let yourself get to the point where you isolate yourself.
lots of hugs and chocolate cake, don't forget the wine
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As a, mostly, perpetually single girl of around the same age as you i know how lonely things can get. I doubt that there is anything wrong with you, and from my own experience if you start thinking that way it is rather self destructive. It is probably that there is something wrong with the people you are meeting, or perhaps a better way to put it would be that there is something not quite right with them in terms of their compatibility with you.
I don't think going into hiding is the right thing to do, in fact it would make you miserable, but do the things that you enjoy doing maybe you will find someone who likes the same things as you doing that. It never hurts to go out and try new things, but don't lose track of the friends you have that care for you either. Only you can decided if you want to deal with rejection or not, the unfulfilled attraction is difficult, and it can be even more difficult to deal with rejection when you have built an attachment to another person that you think is mutual, but I would rather have that bubbly feeling with the rejection than hide from the world.
I could very easily ask the same question of what is wrong with me being very nearly 31 and hopelessly single, but the answers i would give myself wouldn't help me much and i think right now really wouldn't help me much. I think with relationships it is more a case of being lucky enough to meet someone compatible at the right time of your life and their life. One thing i'm certain of is that i would rather be single than in a bad relationship. I know what i have said isn't really helpful, but it is normal for humans to feel alone and isolated even when they have family and friends who would do their best to prevent that. You sound pretty low at the moment, but you are doing a very positive thing talking about it, just pleas don't let yourself get to the point where you isolate yourself.
lots of hugs and chocolate cake, don't forget the wine
take care
T